Comments on: An Uncomfortable Post http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/ Putnam County, The Entire Kanawha Valley & Us Tue, 06 Jan 2009 04:24:09 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.1 By: Lysa Napolitano http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1460 Lysa Napolitano Wed, 21 Nov 2007 00:48:05 +0000 http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1460 Sarah, My first marriage was like this and I stayed with him for 8 yrs. I kept threatening to leave, but never followed through for the reasons you mentioned, broke, family etc.. I did break free only to fall into the 2nd one but now I'm very happy. Sometimes, to me, all the suffering was worth it to get where I am now. Hopefully together you and I can both help someone. Thank you. Sarah,

My first marriage was like this and I stayed with him for 8 yrs. I kept threatening to leave, but never followed through for the reasons you mentioned, broke, family etc.. I did break free only to fall into the 2nd one but now I’m very happy. Sometimes, to me, all the suffering was worth it to get where I am now. Hopefully together you and I can both help someone. Thank you.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1452 Sarah Fri, 16 Nov 2007 20:39:15 +0000 http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1452 Maggie - It wasn't hard to write. I believe if you talk about things, it's harder to feel bad about them. It happened and I did the right things to get away. I learned and I've taught my girls. IT FEELS GOOD. :o) jedijawa - Yep, it's hard to make yourself leave. Inaction is always easiest, but not always best. Aren't you glad you aren't still there? Talking and writing about things helps me. Judging from your blog, I'd say you're the type that needs to write, too. Give it a try when you're ready. Jennifer - I hope she'll hear me, too. The guys that do this stuff count on us not to talk about it. If I talk about it and don't have fear, he has no hold on me. I am healed and whole and strong, and I want that for everyone else. I'm sorry for your bad time, but I'm glad you got out, too. To anyone reading, I've found that when you ask for help, you usually get it. People just need to know that you need it, or that you would accept it. Give someone permission to help you -- they want to. Maggie - It wasn’t hard to write. I believe if you talk about things, it’s harder to feel bad about them. It happened and I did the right things to get away. I learned and I’ve taught my girls. IT FEELS GOOD. :o)

jedijawa - Yep, it’s hard to make yourself leave. Inaction is always easiest, but not always best. Aren’t you glad you aren’t still there? Talking and writing about things helps me. Judging from your blog, I’d say you’re the type that needs to write, too. Give it a try when you’re ready.

Jennifer - I hope she’ll hear me, too. The guys that do this stuff count on us not to talk about it. If I talk about it and don’t have fear, he has no hold on me. I am healed and whole and strong, and I want that for everyone else. I’m sorry for your bad time, but I’m glad you got out, too.

To anyone reading, I’ve found that when you ask for help, you usually get it. People just need to know that you need it, or that you would accept it. Give someone permission to help you — they want to.

]]> By: Jennifer Bukaty http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1447 Jennifer Bukaty Fri, 16 Nov 2007 18:07:48 +0000 http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1447 Sarah, I applaud you for talking openly about this on your website. I hope it makes a difference for even one woman out there. I hope she hears you. If only I'd had this resource in my first relationship. No one would even talk to me about it and getting out was horrifying, to say the least. I was truly on my own and I lost so much in the process of reclaiming my life. But then I found it all again. Which is exactly the point. Sarah, I applaud you for talking openly about this on your website. I hope it makes a difference for even one woman out there. I hope she hears you.

If only I’d had this resource in my first relationship. No one would even talk to me about it and getting out was horrifying, to say the least. I was truly on my own and I lost so much in the process of reclaiming my life. But then I found it all again. Which is exactly the point.

]]> By: jedijawa http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1446 jedijawa Fri, 16 Nov 2007 13:56:54 +0000 http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1446 Yes, you certainly do. I was in a first marriage too. Mine wasn't as bad as what you describe but it was difficult to make the decision to get out and to implement because of some of the same reasons you mention here ... telling family, perceptions, etc. I haven't been able to write about my final days yet. Good post! I hope that it helps people. Yes, you certainly do. I was in a first marriage too. Mine wasn’t as bad as what you describe but it was difficult to make the decision to get out and to implement because of some of the same reasons you mention here … telling family, perceptions, etc. I haven’t been able to write about my final days yet.

Good post! I hope that it helps people.

]]> By: Maggie Dokic http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1443 Maggie Dokic Thu, 15 Nov 2007 13:38:40 +0000 http://www.theputnamscoop.com/an-uncomfortable-post/#comment-1443 oh Sarah, you will help so many women with this post, as difficult as it may have been to write. I love it that you even suggest they use a public computer to keep themselves safe. NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE BATTERED, VERBALLY, EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY. We were meant to be loved. oh Sarah, you will help so many women with this post, as difficult as it may have been to write. I love it that you even suggest they use a public computer to keep themselves safe. NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE BATTERED, VERBALLY, EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY. We were meant to be loved.

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